Stop hanging out and start dating dating your exhusband
I told them about every happy, lasting, fulfilling relationship I’ve witnessed.
The couples in those relationships all have the same “When we first started dating” story.
But alas, 99 times out of 100, there isn’t a good reason and the situation never changes. And we have to deal with the ugly truth, but with months wasted under the ol’ dating belt.
Sometimes, the people coming to me for advice are young and I let them figure it out.
You don’t see yourself as a jealous person, but it’s difficult to see this from a different point of view. First of all, I understand what it’s like to want to “stay close with your ex”. Not the needy, attached kind of “love”, but the admiring, caring kind. so those particular feelings about them didn’t change. I admire them, I care that they’re happy, and I like being around them, because we understand each other. There’s love there but, if I’m in a relationship, there’s no desire to sleep with my ex or anything like that. But it doesn’t mean you’ll sleep with them, or DO anything with them. The strongest relationships are the ones where both partners can share any and all of their feelings without judgement. it’s the CHOICES you make as a result of those feelings.
I’ve been with quite a few women and still feel close with several of them. Because my partner is my priority, and I would never hurt my partner like that. You may not like your partner’s feelings, but you shouldn’t try to manipulate them.
Dating is different nowadays.”“He’s just gotten out of a relationship, so he wants to take things slow.”“She’s just really independent so she likes to be alone most days.”“No, no, you don’t get it.
Or should you be more open with him and start a conversation about it?
Sometimes, people are just looking to fuck around or to have a little wild sex and they don’t need advice from a boring married lady like me. And when you want to make excuses for the person who isn’t hanging out with you, pull it out and let it sink in.
But to the ones among you who don’t want to waste any more time with someone who won’t commit to you, heed my advice.
They don’t mind us being around, necessarily, but they wouldn’t care if we weren’t.
It’s a feeling that’s almost unbelievable in its cruelty.
I get why people don’t listen when I tell them this.