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As certain lessons about dating and relationships have started to become more clear, I feel oddly compelled to share a few things that I wish a 27-year-old had told 22-year-old me.I'm sure I wouldn't have listened, because you kind of just have to go through these things yourself.But after yet another terminated relationship where a lack of ambition was at the core of our issues, I realized something: It's not that I need a guy to be rich — I just need him to be about something, actively. Because I really, really wanted the guys I was with to be Men and not Boys, I would frequently make myself smaller in relationships to compensate for the ways they didn't have their sh*t together.One of the main ways that played out was baby talk. But by assuming the tone of a younger girl who needed to be taken care of when I was feeling needy or I wanted attention, I was often able to trick myself into feeling like the guys I was with were more dominant or protective than they actually felt to me otherwise.Who knows what I'll want to do for the rest of my life, right?Well, here's the difference between me and most of the guys I dated: I'm actively pursuing something anyway, successfully.A guy who's just as successful as me, not a player, AND likes strong women? Or at least, that's what I told myself, as I wrote off the more ambitious guys I wanted most as "probably jerks" for seven years.By picking guys I could try to make projects out of and help direct, I was trying to avoid confronting the ways in which I could be more professionally fulfilled myself.
For me and many others, this decade has been all about love and work.Sure, I'm not always 100 percent sure what that something is, but I have ambition and drive to figure it out.Many of my female friends are the same way — and yet I've watched all of us date guys who didn't even own fitted sheets or a checkbook.That said, from talking with my friends, I know there are some common lessons we all seem to be learning about dating, relationships, and love in this decade.All of us are different, but the potential learning curve is equally steep for most of us.
Whether they only had part-time gigs or were straight up out of work, I gravitated towards guys who were still "figuring it out".